The other day Jessica and I were diligently working away on our plans for
global domination new business opportunities, when across from me, I heard a stifled giggle.
“Dude, you seriously need to read this!”
Coming around our partner desk to see what new source of
procrastination inspiration she had discovered, I found what I’m sure was intended as a self-help article written by a by person claiming to be a Joyologist.
*Insert gaging noise* Sorry, I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.
Honestly, I applaud those trying to spread positivity and encourage others to live a healthier and more fulfilled life, and I also think that outside-the-box job titles are rad, but seriously???? A JOYOLOGIST?!?!?
THE MADNESS HAS GOT TO STOP!!!!!
Listen closely people. Life is not, nor should it be, all about JOY!
It’s not a joyfest. There is no joy on tap. It is not a 24/7 joy buffet!
This great big thing we call the human experience is filled with a million more interesting, and considerably more useful emotions besides joy.
For example, what about anger?
Obviously, being angry all the time is not useful, but what about when anger motivates? What about the anger motivated by injustice, waste or plain stupidity that churns in your belly until you can’t stand it any longer. It’s this anger that leads to ACTION! Whether you scream, yell, or complete an entire Kevin Bacon in Footloose, dancing your way through an empty warehouse montage; when you are through your anger will thrust you forward, helping you to fight for your cause.
Non-stop joy does not inspire action, it breeds contentment.
Then, what about fear?
“The call is coming from inside the house!” produces blood-curdling fear, but what about the other type of fear that produces more than the basic flight response. You know that squirming tickle in your gut when you are taking a risk? That’s the type of fear that reminds you that what you are attempting is important, and going to help you achieve greatness. It’s the squirm that propels you to prepare and practice. This fear psychs you up and gets you ready for your next big opportunity.
Non-stop joy does not provide challenge, it maintains the status quo.
Finally, what about sadness?
For just as there is yin and yang, good and evil, and life and death, without sadness there can never be joy. Just as the saying goes, “You don’t know what you’ve got ‘til it’s gone”, sadness reminds us to cherish the things in our lives we love most. As we move through times of sadness and grief, we come out the other side with a deeper sense of gratitude and renewed life purpose.
Without the bad, there can be no good and thus, no joy.
In the long run seeking never ending joy has nothing to do with seeking happiness. Killing yourself in order to achieve Non-Stop Joy is about seeking perfection. The perfect, drama-free, everyone-loves-everyone and nothing bad ever happens life.
Um, in case you missed the memo, a perfect life does not exist.
Life can be unfair. Life can be exhilarating. Life can be a bitch, but no matter what, it's better than the alternative.
So, to all the Joy Junkies out there trying to achieve the impossible Polly says,
STOP! ARRETEZ! HALT!
Instead of wasting your time trying to find a legal, non-narcotic way to be blissed out all the time, how about accepting the value of a Joy-ish life.
|A glimpse into MY Joyish Life|
Believe me, by embracing a Joy-ish existence, you'll actually end up with a life filled with more joy in the long run.
Heh, what can I say, sometimes life can be a little weird like that.